People have asked me how we can still behave like a family in light of what we are going through. The answer is simple: J and I love our children ~ much more than our own differences. They mean the world to us and we are trying to make this transition as smooth as possible.
Trying to keep the vibe positive takes work, but it is well worth it giving our children the security and love they deserve. I literally have to bite my tongue at moments, but I know that making this harder than it has to be will change them forever. There is no reason to do that to them.
So off to the Inner Harbor we went! The weather was gorgeous--the whole place was abuzz.
4 comments:
WOW! I'm not sure what's going on- and I've been praying like crazy for you, but all I can say is that you are the most selfless mom I have ever "met"! It is very rare to see/hear of a family that keeps the kids out of the mess. You are a great example to those who are going through marriage problems. (I know- you said you bite your tongue a lot, but you'll see the benefits of it the rest of your life) Praying for you!
~Katie
I love looking at your photos :) Thanks so much for sharing your trip with us. And just know that making things easier on the kids will be appreciated by them years down the road.. believe me :)
I can honestly say I know exactly what you're going through in the respect of biting your tongue and forcing yourself to keep the mood light.
If I had a nickel for every time I "could" have said something nasty or mean spirited I would not have to work again.
Now that doesn't mean that I don't vent to my friends.
But my son is not my friend. And he sees his father as perfect, right now. And even when he's older and he sees his father as an actual human being, that will still be his father.
And even if he ever does find out what happened between him and I (not from me!) he'll still love his father and hopefully appreciate the fact that I did not drag him into a nasty, bitter divorce.
Your children will someday feel the same about you. They'll see what an amazing, strong, loving person you are. And they'll be grateful that they have you for a mom.
(hugs)
Thank you for the words of support and encouragement. They mean a lot to me. :)
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